One of my absolute favorite pieces of advice that we receive from Jesus is in Matthew:
Matthew 7:3-5 NLT
“And why worry about a speck in your friend’s eye when you have a log in your own? How can you think of saying to your friend, ‘Let me help you get rid of that speck in your eye,’ when you can’t see past the log in your own eye? Hypocrite! First get rid of the log in your own eye; then you will see well enough to deal with the speck in your friend’s eye.”
I will give you one guess on why I love these verses…
Did you guess? I am going to tell you anyway; I love the fact that we have absolutely no business telling others what they should be doing or not be doing especially if we are still doing or not doing what we are telling others to do or not do. (That was a lot, I hope my point came through). Let’s use an example: if someone is drinking alcohol and you tell them that maybe they shouldn’t be drinking but behind closed doors you are still drinking alcohol. I am going to think that maybe you shouldn’t be giving someone advice on how they should stop drinking when you haven’t even stopped yourself.
Do not get me wrong, we should give advice to others, but we need to be wise about it. It needs to be directed from God. If you watch Friends then you will understand when I say I am more of a Chandler when it comes to giving advice about things, quote: “I’m not great at the advice, can I interest you in a sarcastic comment…?” That is 100% me probably not the best thing to admit but it has been the personality I have developed. There have obviously been moments where I have given advice, but I feel like if advice is going to be given, we need to be sure that we are practicing what we preach.
I have known plenty of people that have told me to do a whole bunch of stuff even though they are still living the exact same way that they are telling me not to do. Have you ever done that before? As Christians, I feel like we are put under a microscope and if we act the wrong way then we will be scrutinized regardless. I am definitely not saying to let that scare you off because God will take care of our enemies. The point I am taking forever to make is that we are to give advice as God gives it to us.
I know everyone wants to give their opinion on how they feel things need to be handled but that is all it is, an opinion. Sure, your opinion is valid, to you but it doesn’t always have to be given. Since I have dubbed myself as Chandler from Friends and I am very sarcastic I have had to learn with a whole bunch of help from God to filter the things that I say. I would love to speak up about absolutely everything and give people my thoughts on what I think should be done but before I start to speak, I start to look inward. Before I speak up, am I giving advice that I, myself am following? Is what I am about to say going to benefit anyone? Will what I say show God’s love? Will what I say take someone down a Godly path or a wicked path? Am I practicing what I am about to preach?
Before you drop your two cents on anything in life think about Matthew 7:3-5. Are you trying to fix someone else’s problem and tell them how to do things before you even fix what is going on with you?
Somethings to think about & journal if you are feeling spunky:
- How do you feel like you give advice?
- Do you feel like the things you are doing are leasing you down a Godly path or a wicked one?
- Can you take a minute to look inward before trying to tell someone else how they should be walking with God?