Thoughts From a Recovering Perfectionist: Identity in Christ

I am a perfectionist through and through. I always feel like if I am not doing something perfectly then I am doing it absolutely wrong. I also feel that if I am not the best at something then what is the point of even doing it? Why tell you about these wonderful qualities of myself? To show that I am not perfect, that’s a hard pill to swallow. 

I started a new book this past week called Don’t Settle for Safe by Sarah Jakes Roberts (purchase here: There was a part in the book that really stuck with me, and it was on the premise that we intend on making our lives look incredibly perfect even though we are struggling on the inside. Now, I don’t know if you have read any of my other posts, but I have wanted it to be clear from the very beginning that I pretty much don’t have my life together at all. 

I am confused most of the time. I have been incredibly disobedient to what God has told me to do. I am unsure on who I am somedays and for the most part I am never 100% sure if I am walking the path God had created for me but I am taking it all one step at a time. I am not this perfect Christian, and I hopefully will never portray myself as one. 

I fully believe that people respect realness more than seeing someone have this perfect life and have it all figured out because that is one quick way of making yourself feel less than. So let’s be real, how put together is your life?

Don’t worry you don’t need a perfect answer just be you because you know what? God wants an imperfect you. He loves you and chooses you regardless of knowing the worst things about you. Can you believe that? You are chosen and qualified all while being a complete hot mess and disobedient. But now it is time to change things. This is where we start figure out how to be obedient. This is where we recognize that we are chosen and qualified and walk with the purpose God has given us. 

You are a hot mess. Your life isn’t perfect. You cry sometimes. You make life harder than it should be but enough is enough, friends. It is time to take the next step in your walk with God and figure out who you really are. I encourage you to read Ephesians 1 & 2 and write down everything God says you are and grasp onto that and never let go. Let’s figure out who we are in Christ, it is time. 

Somethings to think about & journal if you are feeling spunky:

  • Are you a perfectionist?
  • Do you act like you have your life put together when you really don’t?
  • Are you ready to find out who you are in Christ?

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